♫♪♫♩ “Dear future husband, here’s a few things you’ll need to know if you wanna be my one and only all my liiiiiiiiiiife…..” ♫♪♫♩ Yes, most of us have heard Meghan Trainer’s “Dear Future Husband” song, and it’s definitely worth a listen for fun! After all, what girl, or woman, hasn’t thought about her future husband and what she wants. How can we not make lists in our head of his musts after watching the cheesy, romantic chick-flicks by Nicholas Sparks and Hallmark (MOMENT OF TRUTH… Crystal and I both have an undying love and maybe slight obsession with Hallmark Christmas movies).
I can’t tell you the number of times we were asked as young women to think about the qualities we hoped to find in our future husband (you know… righteous, keeps the commandments, treats me with respect, etc. etc.) and these lists were a fantastic reminder of the kinds of young men I should be dating because it kept my mind on the future (aka what I really wanted versus what my teenage mind thought was “hot”).
Today in Young women’s we talked about choices. This lesson was based on the “Come Follow Me” program that The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints rolled out a couple of years ago. The topic for the month of February is “The Plan of Salvation” and today’s lesson was “Why do the choices I make matter?” As I read the talks and scriptures associated with the lesson plan a letter given to me in my youth kept pushing through at the back of my mind.
It was a letter addressed to me as a future mother from my future child still waiting in Heaven, looking down on me, watching and rooting for me from the other side of the veil. I dug through my files and found the letter! I’m so happy that I kept it (thank goodness for my hoarder side)!! I re-typed it up with a few adjustments (updated date and what-not) and felt sooooo excited to share my lesson with the girls the next morning.. and exhausted considering it was about midnight by the time I finished everything. I cannot take credit for this idea or for the letter, I did not come up with it and if I could remember which leader gave it to me I would give credit where credit is due, but alas, my mommy-brain cannot remember who it was. I hope that you will enjoy the letter and find it useful for you, your daughter, the young ladies you serve, or a lesson you’re giving! I’d like to share with you my lesson plan.
Who remembers those Oragami fortune tellers or “Cootie Catchers” from when you were a kid? Well I decided to make one for my class and each of the choices or “fortunes” were a prize they could get. Though not ALL of them were exciting prizes. They could get either a piece of lettuce, a paper clip, a piece of paper, cereal (not a good kind), or CHOCOLATE!!!
NONE of the girls landed on chocolate as they went through choosing their numbers and colors. Finally I helped the last young woman and told her which color to choose so one of them would get chocolate. Then I passed out an instruction guide, which told them how to end up with chocolate! I gave them each a second chance and they ALL GOT CHOCOLATE!!!! Then I asked them how their decisions with the fortune teller could relate to the gospel. I asked what the chocolate represents (i.e. eternal life, celestial kingdom, eternal glory, immortality, blessings, etc.) Then I asked what the directions could represent (i.e. words of the prophet, commandments, standards, scriptures, anywhere we receive direction and guidance from the Lord). They absolutely loved this object lesson!
Then we continued to talk about how the choices they make effect their lives, the lives of those around them, and how we can make good choices, righteous choices. I based my lesson around the talk President Thomas S. Monson gave at the April 2016 General Conference titled “Choices.” And the Personal Progress Choice and Accountability Experience #5 and the lesson plan. I printed the talk and divided it into quotes that I handed out to the girls along with 3 scriptures (Moroni 7:14-15, John 16:13,Helaman 14: 30-31) and 6 questions which were answered by the talk and scriptures.
Quote pdf: Great and Powerful Faith Quote
Letter: Dear Future Mom
Envelope label: Future Mom Envelope
Talk by President Monson: “Choices” April 2016
Questions: Questions about choices
I’ve included the questions and letter as a word document for you as well as the letter so you can change them as necessary (update the date, change the letter to make it your own, whatever you want)! I’ve also included links to the talk and scriptures, just for the ease of it all and a pdf of a handout of my favorite quote from the talk! Enjoy!